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5 ways to deepen your relationship with God

February 22, 2019

How can you develop your relationship with God especially when you lack the motivation? Spiritual growth should be one of our main goals, as God would want us to get closer to Him every single day. Too often, Christians think that once they are saved, that it stops there. But you need to know that after your salvation is actually where the work begins. If you want God to use you the way He intended to, then you need to seek a deeper relationship with Him.

Unfortunately sometimes we lack the time or we make other excuses as to why we can’t get closer to God. The devil will try everything to stop you from getting closer to God. He will use distractions, lack of motivation, work and other means to put your relationship with God on hold.

If you want to make a change this year and seek God will all your heart and deepen your relationship with Him, there are 5 things you can do today to make that change.

  1. Bible study

You have to study God’s word in order to get closer to Him. The bible tells us in John 1:1 that ‘In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.’ So what this means is that in order to know God, you need to know the bible because He is the word itself.

Make it a priority to meditate on the bible, which means studying and applying what’s written in it to your life. If you find it too overwhelming or you just don’t know where to start, I would advise to start with reading the four Gospels in the New Testament. If you became a Christian only recently and want to know God for yourself, it is good to read about Jesus and what He has done for us and understand the reasons for your salvation.

Write down a bible study plan, how much time you want to spend each day and what topic you would like to study. Do it on a regular basis until it becomes a habit. Joshua 1:8 says to ‘Keep this Book of the Law (the bible) always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.’

If you study God’s word, you will soon discover He has all that you need in this life. And that He truly is worth your time!

  1. Memorizing scripture

A good way to strengthen your relationship with God is to memorize scripture. Many people believe they cannot memorize scripture because they feel it’s too long and there’s too much to memorize. I’m telling you if you can memorize a song then you can also memorize scriptures. It’s not as hard as it seems.

I would advise you to start small. You can do this by buying some record cards and writing down some scriptures on them. Take those cards with you wherever you go and go through them as often as you possibly can. You will soon discover that it’s actually not as hard as you think to memorize scripture. So whenever you have a bad day, declare God’s promises over your life.

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  1. Prayer 

Prayer is what you need and key to deepen your relationship with God. There is a saying that ‘Prayer is talking God and studying the bible is Him talking back to you.’ And this is true! Prayer is a form of communication. You can only build a relationship with someone if you communicate with them. And it’s the same with God!

He’s looking for your relationship. He wants you to talk to Him about everything. Your problems, your fears, your good days, what’s going through your mind…simply everything!

If you don’t know how to pray or how often you should pray, I would recommend you start praying when waking up and when going to bed. It doesn’t need to be a long prayer. Even if it’s just for 5 minutes or 2 minutes, as long as it’s a genuine prayer, God will still be happy and listen to you. Tell Him about your days, what you are thankful for and what you need. He will surely answer your prayer.

  1. Fellowship

What better way to deepen your relationship with Him by sharing your faith with others. Whether it is people from your local church, school or work, it is always good to fellowship with other Christians for spiritual growth. Ecclesiastes 4:9 says that ‘Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.’

If you haven’t joined a church yet, I would advise you to do so as God would want you to be there too. Find friends or people that you can share your faith with, so you can help each other spiritually. Don’t solely rely on yourself for spiritual growth, but find someone you can be accountable to grow with you together.

  1. Guard your heart

The bible says in Proverbs 4:23 that ‘Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.’ Now what does it mean to guard your heart? It means fixing your mind and heart on what is pure. God doesn’t want us to be distracted by the evil world and follow its pattern. He wants us to be careful with what we do, listen to, watch and so on, so we don’t easily fall into sin and let the devil have his way.

If we look at another passage in Romans 12:2 it says ‘ Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.’

If you truly want to deepen your relationship with God then you need to focus on Him and not the world. Eliminate anything that doesn’t reflect God’s love in your life and replace it with God’s word. This could be in form of certain music, movies and people that you surround yourself with that are not good for your spirit. Protect your heart and ask God for a discerning spirit so you may know the good from the bad.

Follow these steps and see how your relationship with God gradually improves.

Author of this post: Jennifer Bose

Jennifer Bose is a London-based motivational and Christian-content writer. Born and raised in Germany, she decided to start her own Christian and motivational blog growing up in different environments using her life experience as practical advice for others. She is a passionate follower of Christ that seeks to fulfil her life’s purpose on this earth. For more information, please visit her blog www.sheisbose.com


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  • Courtney Ellis

    This is such a great post, thank you!
    Last year, I graduated from high school (I’m homeschooled) and started online college at home, and for me personally, that transition period of becoming an “adult” was difficult to get used to, because suddenly people expect me to act like an adult. Making time to study the Bible was one of them, and it’s been hard to find the motivation between school, work, wanting to relax, etc. and somehow fit studying time onto the list. Bible was a subject my family included in our schooling, and it was a big shock when I realized it was something I had to make time for! This post was very encouraging to read, so thank you very much! I hope this is another gentle nudge in the direction I need to go in order to get back on track.

    February 23, 2019 at 10:30 pm Reply
    • thedifferentgirl

      I’m so glad you enjoyed it, Jennifer did such a great job on this post. 💜 I hope you find a good routine that works for you!💕

      February 24, 2019 at 9:07 am Reply

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