Comparison is a fight against yourself.
And who can win that one? Jesus said that “a house divided cannot stand (Mark ). And if you are confident in one moment, that perfect selfie moment, but then bashing yourself the next you are simply warring against yourself.
Sometimes the meanest “Mean Girl” is really in our own head. So let’s change that script and here’s an awesome pattern to follow from Philippians 4:8, NLT:
“Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honourable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
So if it isn’t true, pure and lovely… you have an opportunity to take those thoughts captive and reprogram them with the mind of Christ. Because He absolutely sees you as true, honourable, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent and worthy of His daddy-praise!
If I am happy with what I have then I have no need to want what you do.
And it’s perfectly okay to be happy with your looks, your life, your season, even if it isn’t all that you’ve dreamed of. Here’s why:
“Godliness with contentment is great gain.” (1 Timothy 6:6) In Him I can be satisfied in every area of my life, even while waiting for His promises to be fulfilled.
Her being pretty doesn’t mean that I am not
I remember just such a conversation I had recently when I was trying to explain who a girl was by her appearance. I had nothing else to go off and immediately felt the atmosphere shift. “Pretty blonde girl with long hair” seemed to make all the non-blonde girls, who maybe don’t feel pretty, feel insecure. I could see it on their faces. Then those who are more secure in who they are didn’t flinch at my description and instead were still just trying to figure out who I was talking about.
There’s two sides. Content and Discontent. If you are discontent with who you are and the way you look, or what you have or who you’re dating, then comparison will eat away at you and continually allow you to degrade you.
However, if you are content in your identity in Christ, comparison won’t take a grip on your heart and you won’t feel belittled at someone else’s success, strengths or beauty. What a better way to live!
With that, if your identity is rooted on anything other that what Jesus Christ thinks of you, knowing every detail of your life (even your acne, your cellulite and your mistakes) and still radically loves you, then you’re sure to get trapped. I love the way Todd White puts it when referring to the Cross. He says that the Cross reveals our value because of the price that He paid to get you. To know you. To love you. And be loved by you in return.
Girl, you’re just going to have to guard your heart
And “guard” is a verb. It’s an action term. It’s proactive and ready. If you feel trapped by social media, give it up for a while. If you feel trapped by comparison to some of the feeds you follow, unfollow them.
As believers, we each have the Holy Spirit that guides us into all truth. He’s personal and speaks to each of us individually. So for someone who doesn’t struggle like this, I’m sure He’s speaking to them about something else. But for those who feel trapped, He’s probably nudging at you to make a change. Not to rebuke you or make you feel bad, but to help you overcome and be reminded about who you are in Him!